{"id":824,"date":"2011-08-12T13:45:01","date_gmt":"2011-08-12T18:45:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.acu.edu\/acugst\/?p=824"},"modified":"2011-08-12T13:45:01","modified_gmt":"2011-08-12T18:45:01","slug":"whose-marriage-is-it-anyway-the-psalms-in-our-worship-36","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.acu.edu\/acugst\/whose-marriage-is-it-anyway-the-psalms-in-our-worship-36\/","title":{"rendered":"Whose Marriage Is It Anyway? The Psalms in Our Worship 36"},"content":{"rendered":"

Psalm 45 is one of those texts that means different things to different readers.\u00a0 It seems to have begun its life as an epithalamium, a poem for a wedding between an Israelite king and a foreign queen.\u00a0 Later readers connected it to Jesus, not just because they connected most things to Jesus, but because of the psalm’s statement, “your throne O Elohim is forever and ever.”\u00a0 Whatever the later associations are, and they deserve their own treatment and consideration, the first reading is the one I’ll reflect on at the moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

First, a digression.\u00a0 All of us know two things about marriage.\u00a0 The first is that it can be beautiful as two people come together, based on shared values and commitments and not just emotional attraction, and many of us have experienced that blessing.\u00a0 The second is that marriage is difficult, not because we expect too little of it but we because we expect too much.\u00a0 Or rather, we expect too little and too much at the same time.\u00a0 We expect our spouse to offer us happiness, physical satisfaction, avoidance of mortality, and continuous ego-stroking.\u00a0 In short, we expect the other person to complete us, not a very realistic or healthy view.\u00a0 At the same time, we often do not demand of ourselves the same vigorous commitments, the same sacrificial love, or the same investment in personal growth that we expect of our spouse.\u00a0 From this paradox — too much and too little — comes the marital turmoil all too familiar to our times.\u00a0 And when we combine the desire for the beautiful with the hard reality of what it takes to get the beautiful, we end up with challenges.<\/p>\n

But of course marriage has always been challenging, even in ancient times when love was supposed to be the byproduct rather than the precondition of the union.\u00a0 (Ancient Israelites would’ve found the Bachelor and Bachelorette tv shows as incomprehensible as some of us do!)\u00a0 This is where at least one thing in Psalm 45 could help us.<\/p>\n

Of course, much of this psalm is difficult to translate to our experience, not merely because of its antiquity, but mostly because it concerns marriage between a king and a queen and therefore all the political aspects of that relationship.\u00a0 The needs to provide an heir to the throne and to bring about peace with foreign neighbors weigh heavily in this psalm, strongly influencing its language about each marital partner and their new roles.<\/p>\n

But there is one thing that might help us.\u00a0 Notice verses 13-15\u00a0 (Hebrew 14-16): “How splendid is the king’s daughter [i.e., the bride] inside, decked with golden robes… with rejoicing and celebration they are led along; they come to the king’s palace.”\u00a0 There is a joy here, a sense that something important is happening in this marriage, and it is not just about politics or the pragmatics of royal life.\u00a0 There is a sense of wonder here at the beauty of human beings entering into marriage.<\/p>\n

Perhaps the sense of wonder is what is lacking from marriages when they’re in trouble.\u00a0 Isn’t it an extraordinary thing to know that I can have a lifelong relationship with my spouse (my wife, in this case!) through good times and bad, through triumphs and tragedies, and even through the ordinariness of much of life?\u00a0 Isn’t it amazing that the initial euphoria can give way to far deeper and more beautiful emotions, attitudes, beliefs, and actions?\u00a0 Maybe if we learn that much from this psalm, that would be enough.\u00a0 More than enough.\u00a0 As the psalmist says in opening this song, “My heart overflows with a good word.”\u00a0 There is none better.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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