Unconditional Positive Regard
Unconditional positive regard is a technique used by Carl Roger in his client-centered therapy. Positive regard involves receiving things such as love, warmth, and acceptance from the important people in a child’s life. According to Roger, we all have a basic need for positive regard in our childhood. Those who receive unconditional positive regard-full and warm acceptance of people for who they truly are-early in life are more likely to actualize their positive potential. However, some children receive positive regard only when they act in certain way. They acquire conditions of worth-they must act and think in line with the values of the important people in their lives to receive positive regard. Thus, these children may distort actions and thoughts that do not meet their conditions of worth. They live their lives according to other’s values and do not know their own true feelings and who they truly are.
I want to put unconditional positive regard under the category of redemption. Giving unconditional positive regard is very difficult. We will more or less set up our own standards to judge if someone is lovable and acceptable. But I believe we all receive unconditional positive regard from God-his grace. God’s unconditioned love is not blind. He knows very much about people he loves-their weakness and sins, but fully accepts them and never asks anything in return. There is nothing we can do to win his love. His giving of love is without any preconditions. As in Ephesians 2:8-9, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith-and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God-not by works, so that no one can boast.
Mengyuan Tang on Therapy and Restoration
9:37 pm, 12.04.13
As I written in my post, I agree with you that Roger’s client centered therapy and his concept of unconditional positive regard can be placed under the restoration. In the therapy, it is very important to create a climate of unconditional positive regard, nonjudgmental. It is true that accepting others no matter who they are and what they are experiencing is very difficult. But God accept and love everyone, even we are sinful. Accepting rather than judging is much more beneficial not only for clients but also for every one in daily life.
Mengyuan Tang on Maslow, Self-Actualizing, and Creation
8:44 pm, 12.04.13
I like the way you related the ideal characteristics that Maslow believed to be a self actualizing man to God’s creation and teaching. God created man in his own image, so Adam and Eve were made perfect. When sin entered the world, everything changed including man. However the original plan God designed for us was great and his plan of salvation will save us and help us achieve self-actualization again.
Mengyuan Tang on Carl Rogers
8:18 pm, 12.04.13
I enjoy reading your post about Roger. He emphasized on human potential and developed the concept of fully functional person. I like one of his quotations-“the good life is a process, not a state of being.” However, today people rely heavily on technology and are trapped in the virtual world. We really need to spend more time to live in real life and be more open to the new experiences.
Mengyuan Tang on The Bobo Doll represents the fall..
8:23 pm, 11.18.13
I have the same thought with you. I also used the Bobo doll experiment as an example of observational learning and related it to the fall. It seems that people are naturally inclined to learn by observing others. There is no doubt that we can be influenced in both positive and negative way. I agree with you that environment plays an important role in personal growth. Living in a community of people who are all loving is so blessed.
Mengyuan Tang on Behaviorism as Creation
7:44 pm, 11.18.13
I agree with you that behaviorism fits the category of Creation and explains the way we are. Skinner believed the environmental influences on behaviors but rejected the internal causes of behaviors. Although behaviorism is not as popular as in mid 20th century, Skinner’s work of operant conditioning and operant techniques remain very important today
Mengyuan Tang on Freud and Creation
7:08 pm, 11.18.13
I agree with you that Freud fits the category of Creation. For example, his theory of psychosexual stages shows how personality develops during childhood and later influences personality and behavior in adulthood. Although Freud’s work is controversial, he really provided a better understanding of who we are.
Mengyuan Tang on New creation
11:26 pm, 11.03.13
It is also interesting for me that evolutionary psychology regards religion as an adaptive trait. I agree with you that religion make people feel better. Religious people seem to be happier and healthier (both physically and mentally) than people who do not have religion. In this way, religion is a way of surviving and helps us adapt to the ever-changing environment.
Mengyuan Tang on The Whole Heart
10:25 pm, 11.03.13
I like how you related the “whole” concept from Gestalt psychology to the category of redemption and salvation. Firstly, God love us with his whole heart and we love God with all our heart, all our soul, all our strength and all our mind. Secondly, judging others only from one aspect can easily lead to bias. We really should view others is a whole. It is true that sometimes concentrating on wholes than on parts is more beneficial for us. It is an interesting post. Thank you!
Mengyuan Tang on Developmental Psychology and Creation
9:47 pm, 11.03.13
I agree with you that developmental psychology fits the category of Creation. It helps us better understand how we develop and help us live up to our full potential. I also agree with you that one of Anna Freud’s contributions was applying psychoanalysis to children and concentrating on developmental lines. But I think she believed developmental lines were just key adjustments to differentiate one developmental stage from another. The whole process was still a gradual transition.
Mengyuan Tang on Darwin and Creation
7:41 pm, 10.21.13
I like your idea about evolutionary idea and Creation. God made us based on his image from the beginning, but he also have planned the evolvement. We are created to evolve in order to adapt to the complicated and ever-changing environment and survive.